A very intelligent person once explained to me this concept called 'grooves' and it resonated so truly with me that I have to write about it as one of my epiphanies :)

This is the synopsis of that: Just like there are 'paths' water bodies take when it flows over and over... we do have these paths or traps in our minds that we fall in to over and over again... Just like when water takes the same path all the time to the point where there is a deep crevice and water has to flow through that and no other... we humans ensure our thought processes follow these same 'grooves' as it can be called to the point where it becomes second nature and we cannot think any other way

I mean think about it, if we make some people villains, how hard have we worked to think about them differently the minute we hear something about them (whether it is good or bad)?? If it is good, we say "Nah that can't be! There should be something wrong, that could never be him/her". And if we hear something bad, we go back to our grooves almost automatically and say "See? I always knew it!"

Now what's wrong with this? On a high level, nothing... but is this all we are worth? Who are we as people if we can't give someone even a second chance to maybe prove us wrong? Sometimes I am a victim of this and have caught myself with thoughts where the groove comes so easily that I have to fight my comfort zone to get out of these and think differently... I have even witnessed scenarios where many such grooves become people's identity and life stories... now if they have to quit these grooves there is nothing left in their lives...

Scary isn't it? I can only be thankful to have heard about this concept that jerked me from my 'groove' sooner than later to the point where I am secretly pleased to catch myself each time rather than make these grooves the epicenters of my life.

Who would we be without our grooves?